Visit your family without interruption
Do you know how much growth you have made since your last visit to your family? And they promise differently, how do you behave with them this time? Well, that's the catch: no matter how good your intentions, you can risk kissing some of the farewell successes, at least temporarily, when you're with your family. Here are some tips to greatly reduce this opportunity! If visiting your family is a problem for you, during your vacation or at any other time, do not leave home without first being familiar with these important tips!
While it is possible that you are resuming habits that you do not want to repeat, the good news is that there are ways to reduce your chances of decreasing - and strategies to get back to normal when you step back anyway. ,
The secret to using these tips is to admit that your family has some long-standing interaction patterns that you do not like, but, like them, you're used to playing a role in these patterns that you do not like anymore. fill. The reason people have been using these unwanted models right from the start is an article in itself. Avoiding a trigger - and what to do if caught in a trigger dance - is the subject of this article.
The most important key to an uninterrupted family visit is developing your own personal response action plan. This plan consists of two main parts. The first thing to do is the planning you do before your visit. The second concerns the areas of action to focus on during the visit itself.
THREE PLANNING TO VISIT: 1) Preparing the trigger dance, 2) Planning the logistics and 3) Planning the self-catering.
PREPARING DANCE IN DANCE: The "trigger dance" is a pattern in which two or more people interact in such a way that one or more of them become alarmed or lose their sense of well-being (ie that they work).
1) Show the family dances you plan to see during this visit;
2) Describe your traditional role in each of them;
3) For each triggered dance, make a list of three alternatives to your usual role (they may include ways you can prevent the dance from starting, ways you can react differently at the beginning of the dance, but before not apply) the damage and / or the ways in which you could take better care of yourself when the damage is caused);
4) List how these new potential dance steps can wake up a family boat;
5) Based on this information, choose the risk of swinging the boat you are ready to take in case of Trigger Dance.
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LOGISTIC PLANNING - Decide in advance: 1) Where do you want to stay during your visit; 2) Who do you visit and for how long? 3) What types of activities do you want to participate in? and 4) who do you want to spend more time with during these activities?
Personal Care Planning - Make commitments to yourself in advance to ensure great personal care. Self-care activities include: meditation, prayer time, sleep, eating something healthy, exercise, walking, meeting, phone calls or visiting a support system, writing a diary, giving up control, refusing anesthesia, reading, laughing listening to music or visualizing a white light that protects you. and your family.